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To The Newly Engaged

Open Letter to the Nervous Newly Engaged


It’s finally happened! You look down at your left hand to see a ring that’s beauty can only be rivaled by your radiance as a soon-to-be Mrs. As a newly engaged bride, you couldn’t be happier starting to think about your future life as a wife. The only thing standing between now and “I do” is all the wedding planning, which can feel as endless as the number of stars in the sky. Some brides have been planning for this moment since their hopelessly romantic childhood days, while others never imagined themselves walking down the aisle until recently.

The most important thing for a bride to remember is she must follow her heart. There may be times where wedding stress causes you to sit alone at home with a bottle of rosé and a bowl full of Häagen-Dazs, feeling completely overwhelmed, but there is nothing more reassuring for your confidence than knowing what you want. Listen to the whispers of your heart to guide your choices on whether you want a timeless traditional gown or a once-in-a-lifetime dress that makes you look as divine as you feel in the moment. Don’t be afraid to voice how you envision your wedding day going, no matter how many other people might try to persuade you to change your mind. In the end, when you look back on the day your life changed forever, you want your biggest regret to be not being able to freeze time to savor the moment instead of things like paying too much for floral arrangements or caving in to your mother-in-law’s vision of bright yellow bridesmaids’ dresses.

When a bride needs support, she can always turn to her close friends and family to help boost morale as she braves the wedding world. However, only the bride herself knows what she really wants. So, take a deep breath and remember to stay calm. Your wedding is only overwhelming if you let it become more than you are willing to handle.

Loren Swilley

Loren Swilley
Columnist | The Bride Speaks

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